To walk around a ghost in your own life is worse than death. To not be seen, no matter who looks upon you. To not be understood, no matter who speaks to you. To be taught how to live by people who do not recognize who you are, or even who they are.
This is the tragedy that brings families and societies to the crumbling point. This is the bedrock on which addiction, misery, and abuse stand. To not know who your family members or the people around you are, not really. To be with others, yet to feel utterly alone. To be told all through your childhood, a story (even though you can see right through it) of who the adults in your life are. And perhaps the most damaging lie of all: To be told a story of who you should be, without recognition or consideration for who you truly are. In this way, we have robbed one another of true joy. …
Our thoughts can be stronger than the force of gravity.
No matter how much will a person has, the simple phrase “I can’t” can stop them in their tracks without them even noticing it happened.
I watch people convince themselves that they can’t do something, on a weekly basis.
I watch them speaking and I listen to their words, and all the while I see someone so capable, so strong, so smart. I see someone who doesn’t notice that they’ve pushed down their own power, with their own thoughts.
I have so much empathy for this. We’re all human. We talk ourselves out of what we desire, on the daily. …
The solution you’re looking for can be as simple
As putting a puzzle together
You have to want to find the right pieces
You have to believe that you can in fact
You’ll have to really see
Really look at what’s in front of you
Because the pieces might be there
But they won’t matter
Until you see them for what they are
Will your Will win?
Or your disbelief?
Dear, sweet human
You can tell yourself it’s not possible
That the puzzle will never fit
That the pieces you need are not there
That you’re not the right one to put it together in the first…
The word “overthinking” usually comes with a negative connotation. Of course, because according to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, the definition is “Thinking too much about something”. Judgment of the activity is inherent in its definition.
What if we stop viewing overthinking as a “bad” habit, and start to think of it as a habit that indicates something. It’s information. People labeled as overthinkers are thought of as anxious, hyper, ungrounded, or maybe even insecure. These things may be true, but in reality, people who think a lot are intelligent, creative, empathic, and like to find solutions. None of these aspects of a personality is negative. In fact, they’re strengths. …
The centre of your life begins with you.
Through ups and downs.
Through health and sickness.
Through self-hatred and self-love.
No one else knows what you go through on a daily basis.
Be your best friend.
Be your hero.
Be who you want to be.
Radical self-love outlasts all of the changes I listed above. If it goes away, it always comes back. Even if you have to listen hard to hear it.
You practice it through tears and laughter.
You look for it when you can’t find anything else. It’s what sustains you even when you feel that no one else loves you. …
Believing that you’re capable of success in a given situation is called self-efficacy. Some of us have higher self-efficacy, and some of us have lower.
Psychologist Albert Bandura has defined self-efficacy as people’s beliefs in their capabilities to exercise control over their own functioning and over events that affect their lives. One’s sense of self-efficacy can provide the foundation for motivation, well-being, and personal accomplishment. -Simply Psychology
If you’re an A or a B on the 1-question quiz above, then you may find more joy or less stress in the ups and downs of trying something new or difficult because you believe that it’s all just a part of the path toward your success: That success for you is not only likely but probable. …
This is one of the best views on the planet: Looking up, surrounded by trees.
It helps to remember sometimes that the world is bigger than your ideals. That even at the end of the day, all of your struggles, wins, hopes and failures are all fodder for the soil you stand on. All of your thoughts are so small, they can blow away in the wind…however, whether you know it or not, you let them rule your life. We all do.
Is it a place of comfort? Or is it a place of “not enough”? The way you think about yourself and everything around you determines how you define your reality, how you define everything in your world. It determines how you feel, how you allow others to treat you, and how you decide to treat others. Your perception is a filter, it’s how you take in information and discern its meaning. Things are just things and people are undefined until they pass through the filter of your thoughts, of your perception. …
I used to let others make me feel bad about myself. Family, partners, and even friends. It took me a very long time to even realize I was allowing my sense of self-worth to fluctuate based on how others treated me.
Now that I’m in my 40’s, I’ve finally learned the most important lesson of my life: That I don’t need to please others to be good enough. I don’t have to cake on makeup, or have chiseled muscles or get another college degree or make a certain amount of money to be good enough. And you don’t either. …